You are not a victim of your circumstances

You are not a victim of your circumstances. You are the product of the story you tell yourself.

I help people set goals, overcome obstacles and be the best possible version of themselves because I consistently do it myself.

I believe that you can accomplish anything you want using the power of your subconscious mind.

And this is not just my opinion, it has been proven over and over again in studies about neuroscience, neurolinguistic programming, studies that doctors have done to show the correlation between having certain thoughts and developing certain illnesses.

When I was a teenager growing up in Belgrade, Serbia, I faced many hardships that came with living in a country that was in the midst of a civil war. Those included – but weren’t limited to – standing in line for hours to get rationed basic groceries like cooking oil and bread, having classes cancelled because of various reasons (no heat, teachers were on strike, Belgrade was being bombed), hyper inflation and watching my parents literally invent ways to support a family of 4 when the math didn’t add up and when nothing made sense.

I was traumatized in a lot of ways while growing up, and so were many other people, probably a lot of you who are reading this as well. And if you’re thinking “I didn’t get traumatized”, I would argue whether that is true or not. The way Gabor Mate, one of the leading experts on this subject, the way he defines trauma is that it’s not WHAT happens to us, it’s HOW we deal with it and if we are left alone with a certain pain, when we are not soothed by someone, but left alone to deal with this pain.

So there’s a solid chance that most of us are growing up with a certain amount of trauma, just unaware of it.

Today, many challenges later, not just do I still stand here, but I have accomplished so much more than that little girl growing up in Belgrade could have imagined. A few of the things that I am most proud of are:

• I have helped my parents buy an apartment;

• I left an unhappy marriage and healed my dating patterns;

• I have dual citizenship;

• I arrived to NY as an immigrant in my late 20’s and I didn’t know anyone, but within 10 years, I was a wildly successful real estate agent in NY, the agent of the year in my Manhattan-based company, making high 6 figures, being well respected and having over 75% of my business be return clients

I have trained myself over and over again to be strong, to be resourceful, to follow my inner guidance, to do what’s hard.

And I’ve discovered in the process how deep my trauma goes. It shows up in unexpected ways – the unrealistic goals I would set for myself, the low expectations I would have from my partners. I was always going for the impossible. And even when I would achieve it, I wouldn’t want it and I would find ways to sabotage myself.

I am so grateful that I have found this work because it has saved my life. I do what I do because of the coaches I have had and the difference that they have made for me.

I am so obsessed with helping others overcome their obstacles and create a life they love because I think that’s the way to save humanity. I’m so convinced of this truth that I left a high paying career that I have been building for years in order to pursue this.

I have, once again, chosen a difficult task. I started from nothing, built myself up to 5% income earners in America and then ditched that in order to pursue a new adventure, started a business from scratch. I have been a coach for a year now and it hasn’t been easy. But I have an attachment to struggle because of my early experiences, so on some level, I know I’m creating the hardships. The next level is to overcome them, but this time, while doing work that feels meaningful.

And I tell my story to model what’s possible. While building this new business to where I want it to be monetarily, getting organized and building a team, I still find ways to live the kind of life I want, spending it between New York, Belgrade and Rio de Janeiro.

This is what I am working on currently (and have made leaps and bounds in the last two years):

• I speak my mind and ask for what I want;

• I don’t take it personally if the answer is no;

• I set boundaries with love;

• I walk away from people who don’t respect me (including myself)

I'm not sure who needs to hear this, but if no one has told you in a while: IT IS POSSIBLE FOR YOU. REGARDLESS OF YOUR AGE, circumstance, the cards that you have been dealt.

Consider that these circumstances were specifically tailored to you, to give you an opportunity to overcome them and become a better human being by doing it.

If you are feeling run down, know that vitality and energy are on the other side for you. It's possible to activate this.

If you are feeling lonely, know that connection, real love, and understanding are on the other side for you. It's possible to cultivate this.

If you are feeling the depths of grief or frustration, know that joy is on the other side for you. It's possible to move through.

It's all possible.

And it's not a fairytale or some woo-woo. It's the result of a relentless commitment to personal growth by practicing positive habits of thoughts, emotions, and actions consistently over time.

And when you get fed up from the stories you’re telling yourself about why it’s impossible, call me. I’ll be here to help you cross to the other side. And I promise you that it’s worth it.